If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful. ~ Jesus Christ (Luke 6:32-36)
Penetrating words from our teacher, our savior, our Lord. The standard of excellence is not set on what we can gain, but what we can give.
Are you operating like a "loan shark" with your love, your mercy, and your forigveness? Do you make others pay the price or earn your trust and mercy? This isn't the way of Christ.
Stop revisiting the same old scenes to collect your "relationship debts". Forgive those loans and move on.
Today, pull out your balance sheet of who owes you... pray over it... tear it up... throw it away. Just as God has done with your debts. You will find immediate freedom.