Adrian Smidt
on 10/24/2017 at 11:23 pm
Hi Chad. Look Up BPD and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. If she keeps coming and going you might be dealing with something of this nature. Keep seeking God.
Carlos Valentin
on 10/24/2017 at 03:53 pm
Chad I'm praying for you. I've been through something very similar. I dated a girl for ten years, she had a very bad alcohol problem due to being molested as a child. She cheated on me basically every summer of our relationship. 8 years in a row. Every summer. I would say I forgave her and thought I did, but as time here I became entrenched in anger, self doubt feelings of impotence and developed this sort of 3 day out of the week blackout drinking habit. I believed it was our plan to get married but after so much abuse I had to leave. Oddly enough, shortly after I found a friend who led me back to Christ (which is still hard because of all this anger, self doubt,and what became a form of self obsession trying to fix me and everything around me) anyway. I have found someone new who is a woman of God who is truly loving, yet holds me accountable for my end of my issues. Sometimes we want God's plans to be ours so bad that we are forces down by him to know we find our sense of self worth not through relationship5s or our selves, but through him alone. THIS MAY NOT BE YOUR SITUATION AND I AM NOT TELLING ANYONE WHAT TO DO. But, first off, I hope she is Christian as well. Run it through to see if it lines up with scripture. Talk with a pastor, one who might not even know you if you. I'll pray for you. You pray as well.
Montrey Willis
on 10/24/2017 at 02:35 pm
Amen ..thanks really needed this today
Boyce Moses
on 10/24/2017 at 01:57 pm
Chad, God’s Love is sufficient for you. You have to believe it and live it. You can’t control others, just control your relationship with God. It will also help you accept and see the situation easier.
Rick Donka
on 10/24/2017 at 01:31 pm
Chad, you are in our prayers for peace and guidance as well as a deepening relationship with Christ. Cling to Him. He will not fail you!
Greg Arnold
on 10/24/2017 at 01:30 pm
Hey Chad. Jay’s words are on target. A tough truth which takes time to learn is that anger and frustration comes from us - not the other person. We own it. Anger has a way of fogging the mirror so we can’t see ourselves in the situation. If the situation you are in were a movie, who are the actors? What is the storyline? Who is the villain? Who is the hero? It’s a strange way to look at it, but can help break the cycle anger and retaliation. Go to God about your role, not her role or their role. Focus on God’s instruction and how you can best show Him to them. Try not to focus on the external players and their role - you can’t change them or how they feel without making changes in you. Stick with your role and how you can best represent Christ. Hope that helps a little.
Jason Lucas
on 10/24/2017 at 01:20 pm
Father, Let our words be Your words. Allow us to see those we are in the most contention with as You see them. John shares in Revelation about those we have cared for being as if they were Jesus Himself. Remind us of this when we get angry or frustrated with others. In Jesus Name. Amen.
Jay Wilson
on 10/24/2017 at 12:47 pm
Chad, I'm definitely standing in prayer with you brother over this. Yeah that's a hard thing to swallow when dealing with the mother of your child. I know you have her in your child's best interest in mind when it comes to this, and your desire I can see is to love her from the heart of Christ. However my brother it seems as God is trying to love on you at the moment and show you that he was to be your all in all. I pray that you gain wisdom and understanding through this it take the hard but rewarding Road of just focusing on building your relationship with him and your child. Allow God to work on you and if it's meant to be with your child's mother let the Lord bring her to you. Love you man it be encouraged God bless
Chad L McGlothlin
on 10/24/2017 at 09:11 am
from work and off the phone with my daughter's mother whom is asking that I wait while she figures out how to let him without hurting him (I feel like a fool for believing her, but my heart say to keep trusting her), and I could really use some guidance and words of advice right now.
Chad L McGlothlin
on 10/24/2017 at 09:07 am
I could really use some help in this department. One of the reasons I found this app was due to personal issues dealing with anger. Me and My daughter's mother have been off and on over the last two years, and no matter what's she done to me, I've been forgiving and am still unconditionally in love with her. Well, recently we tried again, and only after a day and half after getting back together, she breaks it off, going back to her previous ex during our last break up because he's only had one other girl friend his entire life and that was well over 10 years ago. Now I mind you, he's a friend of her step father, and her family wants them together despite his controlling and jealous nature. And normally, I wouldn't let such small things bother me, as I know with all my heart that this is all a part of God's plan for she and I, and that nothing can come between the life together that he has planned for us. But for some reason it began to bother me, fill me with anger and vengeance. And I don't like the way this feels. So I decided to look into daily devotionals to partake in to humble my heart. And this is where I stumbled across this app, and I'm loving the setup you guy have here and the spiritual kinship your offering. But alas, I'm still feeling the before mentioned anger and vengeance, and it's making my heart sick with it. So I decided to comment here on this subject as it popped up when I needed it most this morning (It's 2:06am CST) as I've just eventually got home

DAY 297: How To Handle The Haters

 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.  ~ Romans 12:14

Restraint. Self-Control.

When others are pouring hate on you, keep your focus on God's best for you instead of focusing on your disgust for them.  

Yes,  you may have a few salty words for that person when you blow off steam, but keep your mouth off their soul - it isn't your place or your job to curse them and wish them to hell.

Sometimes the best way to bless those who rail against you is to pray they find peace.  Pray for your enemy right now - and release yourself.